For a birthing woman, there is nothing like knowing your spouse or partner is IN this with you. The labor and birth process is an incredibly vulnerable and intimate time and space. Most often up until the latter part of pregnancy women aren’t focused on the actual birth. There is far too much preparation to take place to focus on something SO BIG. But, right around 30 weeks, or so, this labor and birth process gets real. It is coming! We begin to question whether or not we can do this. Even if we’ve done it before, we can question our abilities this time. “Can I do it this time? I want a natural unmedicated birth. Can I handle the pain?”, “I had a cesarean the last time, but want to try for a home birth. What if my body “doesn’t work”?”, or even “I want the drugs! Give me the good stuff right away! Is that okay?” Through this process, there is a relying on our partner that might be a bit too much to for you to handle. At least, that’s what you think. But, let me give you the Top 5 things to say to your wife, mother of your child, lady that will give her the boost of confidence she needs when she’s having her internal, and sometimes external struggles with this birth that seems to be coming quickly. I love you. • I trust you. Not only will these 5 statements take you through the end of pregnancy, but they are PRICELESS GEMS during the labor process and into the parenting journey. If you want to be the hero, don’t try to save her from what is a natural process. Instead, comfort her with these few words and whatever other tools you happen to have in your toolkit. You’ve got this! And if you need back-up, there’s ALWAYS a doula.
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When a pregnant woman experiences abuse, so does the baby inside her. During the 1st trimester, physical and emotional abuse can cause miscarriage. During the 2nd and 3rd trimesters baby hears the yelling, the sirens, the crying, the chaos on the outside. This can lead to PTSD after birth. The woman’s high stress levels release cortisol, which can cause harm to brain development in utero. There are many negative effects domestic violence can have on a developing baby. These are just a small few. If caught early enough the effects don’t have to be permanent. Victims of domestic violence need to be supported. They need to feel safe. They need their voices heard. For both woman and baby, it could make the difference between life and death. Please hit SHARE to broaden the awareness. Need Help? The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) #OctoberIsDomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #DVAM #DVAM2017#TakeAStand #BreakTheSilence #PurpleRibbon #YouAreNotAlone#NoLongerAVictim |
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AuthorTenaj is a wife, homeschooling mother of 3, owner of Birthing Arrows, labor doula, and aspiring childbirth educator who brings her Christian faith into all aspects of her life. Archives
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